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John Heavner's avatar

I write and train EQ, and this is the best concise guide I've ever encountered. Well done!

Michael Grose's avatar

Thanks John for the positive feedback.

Prudence Swann's avatar

Is it too late when your children are in their 50’s ?

Michael Grose's avatar

Ha!! Never!!😂

Anna Quandt's avatar

My child is 34. This might have helped. He has high functioning autism diagnosed in 4th grade. Did not respond to “normal discipline.” I put him in time out for what turned out to be autistic meltdowns. Talking it thru now with me and a therapist. Any advice for autism moms? One in 12 boys in California.

Michael Grose's avatar

Hi Anna. Yes, kids with high functioning autism don’t need an individual approach. I’m sure you learned a lot along your journey. I’m putting together some tools for parents of kids with more specific needs for future publication. Best wishes.

Marcy White's avatar

I am a public school prek teacher and this is a great concise article that includes everything I talk with parents about during conferences. It follows Conscious Discipline tenets, a research based program that I’ve been following for over 15 years. In my classroom everything starts with connection!

Michael Grose's avatar

Thanks for the feedback @Marcy White. Yes, ‘relationships first’ is a fitting mantra for classroom teachers…anyone really involved with kids.👍

Chad Woolley's avatar

Great advice, thank you!

Michael Grose's avatar

Thanks @Chad Woolley. Appreciate the feedback. Always nice to know when things hit the mark.👍

Constanze Munz's avatar

My son is 3.5 and I realize how j sometimes default back to the more directive parenting. Although I don’t like it but in the moment it feels like it makes things easier. Love the practical approach you bring. Thanks for this one!

Michael Grose's avatar

Thanks for the positive feedback @Constanze Munz. We all have a default mechanism we don’t like especially when kids are less than perfect! It’s worth remembering that different styles suit different kids and different situations. In other words, there’s a time and place for directive parenting. Enjoy your little man!👍

Constanze Munz's avatar

What a lovely reply. Thanks so much! And he is very easygoing so I am very lucky. ;) really enjoy your channel!

Kunlun, PhD | Playful Brains's avatar

Thanks Michael for this great article. It's a nice combination of different parenting styles for teaching discipline to kids (authoritative, authoritarian, gentle, Type C, Dolphin parenting, etc.). I enjoyed the read and got some good suggestions. Thank you.

Michael Grose's avatar

Thanks for the feedback @Kunlun | Playful Brains .

The Letters to Mary's avatar

I like these principals and they transfer well to school, out patient clinic and daycare expectations.

Second Principles's avatar

I write for no other reason than to spur thought. Those thoughts take a variety of forms. I just published a short piece, packed with important thoughts for current and future parents. I’d love to connect with others over thoughts/feedback.

https://substack.com/@secondprinciples/note/p-176360747?r=755xv&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=notes-share-action

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Michael Grose's avatar

Thanks Bob for your perspective! 👍